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The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
The Dance of Anger A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
Author: Harriet Lerner
ISBN-13: 9780060913564
ISBN-10: 0060913568
Publication Date: 10/1986
Pages: 239
Rating:
  • Currently 3.7/5 Stars.
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3.7 stars, based on 20 ratings
Publisher: Harper Row
Book Type: Paperback
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Helpful Score: 7
If you are living with a man who is controlling and obsessive and escalates his bad behavior when you push back, this is a book you should read.
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Helpful Score: 7
An excellent read for women at all stages of life. This is an insightful and very useful guide to helping women understand and rechannel their anger to become a constructive rather than destructive factor in their relationships.
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Helpful Score: 6
Insightful book about the patterns of anger, Prescriptions for lasting changes are offered. Aids in helping women becoe stronger and more independent.
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Helpful Score: 4
A book for women who are having relational problems with spouses who are controlling or who put them down. Walks you through the anger and helps you use it to change yourself and your partner.
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Helpful Score: 2
An insightful & prescriptive guide that shows women how to turn anger into a constructive force for re-shaping their lives
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Helpful Score: 2
Of all the books that have been written about the personal relationships of women and what to do about them, this is the most sound. It contains an inspirational message for all women, regardless of their age, background, or life experience.
collinsky avatar reviewed The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships on + 2 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
A very helpful book, for all women whether they repress their anger or feel that they could express it more healthfully.
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Helpful Score: 1
a womans guide to changing the paterns of intimate relationships
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Helpful Score: 1
This book was a definate eye-opener. I am glad I ran across this book. It has helped me with a perspective I have not thought about in relationships.
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Helpful Score: 1
Another fine book on anger! If you have this issue or someone near you does, this book will help you understand that you don't have to live like this. Pick up every book that you can, they all in their own way will help you conquer this problem.
saphyreskyes avatar reviewed The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships on + 34 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
This book should be required reading for every high school American! It is informative and insightful. The study digs deep into the underbelly of anger and gives practical suggestions on how to properly express oneself in order to avoid resorting to an outburst. It teaches where one's own responsibility lies in communication and interaction with those around us, and clearly outlines the boundaries we can set for ourselves. Very helpful and easy to understand.
hazeleyes avatar reviewed The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships on + 331 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
This book was, for me, the pivitol information I needed in order to change myself so that I coould begin my journey of self-knowledge on the road to becoming a mentally-healthy, strong, and normal (whatever that is) person. I can't thank Harriet Lerner enough for having written it and I wish her many years of happiness and productivity -- more books!
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Helpful Score: 1
an insightful and prescriptive guide that shows women how to turn anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives
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Helpful Score: 1
Interesting book. Helped me to better understand my relationship with my husband.
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Helpful Score: 1
How women can reduce anger in relationships and turn it into something productive.
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womans guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships.224 pages
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A careful writing about women's anger done with compassion and insight.
hairgoddess avatar reviewed The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships on + 3 more book reviews
Not a bad book, but only helpful is someone in particular is making you angry, not the book for someone with general anger issues.
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i personally did not read the book i got it for someone who needs advice on this area
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I enjoyed reading this book, which was suggested to me by my counselor. It helped me understand that it is normal and okay to be angry, just voice it the correct way...focusing on YOU instead of what the other person did or didn't do. Realized I am an overfunctioner and this alone will change my life for the better. I would highly recommend this book.
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This is the book that started me a wonderful journey of exploring my relationships and making them better. When ever I see a good used copy I buy it, as there is always someone I know I can pass it along to.
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This was a really enlightening book. It helped me to understand my emotions much better. Harriet Lerner has written some wonderful books on relationships--both to yourself and others.
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From the back cover: Harriet Goldhor Lerner, a psychotherapist at the Menninger Foundation, illuminates the causes and patterns of anger while providing specific strategies for making meaningful and lasting change in important relationships. Basing her conclusions on a decade of clinical investigations and drawing on recent findings from psychoanalytic and family systems theory, she illustrates how, and why, our anger (be it vented through fighting and blaming or silence and emotional distancing) often protects rather than challenges existing relationship dynamics. And she explains the difficulties women have not only in getting angry but also in using their anger to gain a stronger, and more independent, sense of self.
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An excellent book. It is an insightful and prescriptive guide that shows women how to turn anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives.
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I read this book following my divorce and I have to say there were many things it taught me and helped me deal with the changes in my life.
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Great reading for women's studies courses.
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I recommend this book to everyone. It doesn't look brand new but is still in excellent condition to enjoy for many more readings. Has two names written on it. No tears or anything else.
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This is a book I recommend a lot. I enjoy the universal way it can speak to anyone, though many see it as focused on women. I found it very meaningful, easy to understand, and eye opening to the circular patterns of behavior in relationships. It is one of those books you can go back and reference again and again.