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Book Review of Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
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A great book! I don't have first hand knowledge (and hope never to!) about marital infidelity, but this book really shed light on the slippery slope to an affair. All too common these days are affairs that start at the workplace. First two people have an innocent opposite sex friendship which grows more intimate over times with emotional intimacy, secrecy and sexual attraction. And this friendship, can, if left unchecked, morph into a full-blown sexual affair. The late Shirley Glass shows the step by step progression and how to avoid the pitfalls along the way. She peppers the book with real life couples. Both male and female cheaters are represented equally in the book. You see both points of view - the betrayed and the cheater. She also has a small section on the point of view of the other woman/other man. The book provides advice on reconciliation and all that must occur for it to be healing and successful. The author also provides information to those who divorce after the discovery of infidelity.

All too often these days, opposite sex friends provide emotional intimacy and support that should come from a spouse. The author shows the difference between a true friend or friend to the marriage versus someone who has an ulterior motive. The title of the book comes from the often used phrase by the cheating spouse "No..he/she is just a friend! Nothing more.." Well sometimes he or she is not just a friend. They're so much more.

This book is a wonderful resource for new couples and those looking to strengthen their marriage. I don't think this is only a book for people looking to reconcile from infidelity. We can all learn from the wisdom in this book. I've recommended this to many friends. It's definitely a keeper and I won't part with it.